Why do we so often take friends for granted? Often so times I have observed that friends ask us to do something and we refuse - sorry no time, nah not mood. Basically we can tell them what we really feel like.
On the other hand same kind of questions coming from say colleagues, casual acquaintances, bosses, seniors and we play along, sometimes even enjoy doing it.
So which is right? Being true to self and denying friends the company while maybe being polite and letting those we do not care about that deeply have the company? I would expect that close friends should by definition get more of us than the rest. But does it always happen in real life?
We also use close friends to steam off. Poor folks who care enough to suffer us in all moods are those who actually bear the brunt of our ill humor while the acquaintances merely get a coldish shrug.
I wonder if we haven't got it all wrong? Shouldn't the ones we love be the ones we always give the happiest us and the enemies get to bear the steam?
Hindi Literature in Mumbai
9 years ago
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It happens... the ones closest to one know what is one's worst behavior. They know it because they experience it whereas to the rest it is the best behavior to be shown. Now my wife wants to go to sleep and here I am spennding time reading blogs and replying to them... I dont read blogs or reply to them in the office, do i :-)
The choicest garb, the sweetest grace,
Are oft to strangers shown;
The careless mien, the frowning face,
Are given to our own.
We flatter those we scarcely know,
We please the fleeting guest,
And deal full many a thoughtless blow
To those who love us best.
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